Letting Go

~~~~~~ Tom Jackson once said "Sometimes the cards we are dealt are not always fair, but we must keep smiling and move on"...

~~~ Today, I cannot think of a more appropriate quote for how I feel... You see, To be able to move on, one has to learn to forgive not only the person (or people) who have done us wrong but also oneself. Forgiving someone who's hurt you can be like pulling teeth.... Painful, but sometimes necessary to move forward. Forgiving and letting go are essential stones on the path of finding our happiness again. I take hurt and deal with it differently each time. Sometimes I shut myself out to the world for a bit, sometimes I say everything I feel to the one who hurt me with no regards to letting them get a word in, and sometimes, Like now, I blog about it and hope that it might actually be helpful to someone in a similar situation....

~~~~~ This time, I think I might just dabble in a little bit of everything, then get over it, and keep on goin. Half the time, the people who hurt us aren't worth whatever tears are shed or feelings felt, yet unavoidably, it doesn't make it hurt any less.~ If you take a second to think about it, in life we search and search for the right person. But every time you break up, or let go of someone, you get one step closer to finding that person. So ultimately, we should look at letting go as us getting one step closer to meeting 'the one'. Someone who means it when they look you in the eyes and tell you they love you, and someone who should never have to say I'm sorry, because you already know they never want to see you hurt.

~~~~~~ Over time, I've been hurt, I've felt sadness, and I've shed my share of tears. One thing I've learned though, is that quietly forgiving no matter how much it hurts, and letting go is not only like a gift to God, but also to yourself. You are responsible for your life, and as much as we might want to, we cannot always blame whatever dysfunction we feel on other people. In the end, if you're not happy with your circumstances.... Change them. I'm in the process of changing mine, because I know that I deserve nothing short of the best. I know who and what I am. I am a strong-willed, God-Fearing, independent woman who knows how to laugh and isn't afraid to cry. A mother, daughter, sister, and friend.... I've made mistakes, but I do my best to learn from them. Moving on has allowed me to know who I am, and the extent of what I am capable of.

~~~ Letting go doesn't mean giving up... it means moving on. It is one of the hardest things a person can do. Starting at birth, we grasp on to anything we can get our hands on, and hold on as if we will cease to exist when we let go. We feel that letting go is giving up, quitting, and that as we all know is cowardly. But as we grow older we are forced to change our way of thinking. We are forced to realize that letting go just means you're accepting things that cannot be. It means maturing and moving on, no matter how hard you have to fight yourself to do so....

~~~~~And any change or loss, does not make us victims. Others can shake you, surprise you, disappoint you, but they can't prevent you from acting, from taking the situation you're presented with and moving on. No matter where you are in life, no matter what your situation, you can always do something. You always have a choice and the choice can be power, So stay strong!

XOXO ~ C